How I decided to label my own sexuality

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I came out as bisexual after years of avoiding labels..

On a sweltering August day two years ago, I sat in my apartment and stared at the form a standard questionnaire my employer had sent out to better understand the demographics of our newsroom on my computer screen.. But I was stumped on one question in particular: What is your sexual orientation?..

I'd spent my teenage years and my early 20s happily in love with my high-school sweetheart, and I hadn't thought to question my sexuality until the final years of our 10-year relationship...

When I watched Delevingne look visibly awkward during a women-only group-masturbation class and admit that for all of the press about her relationships, she still felt uncertain about her sexual trajectory, I found myself questioning the parameters I put on myself...

The truth is, sexual labels are meant for the person picking them, but they aren't required to feel secure or valid in one's sexuality, as the nonbinary and queer therapist and "Gender Magic" author Rae McDaniel previously told me...

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