I'm a therapist during the day and a burlesque dancer at night. I've learned that beauty is situational.

Fancy Feast is the stage name of a New York City performer.During the day she's a therapist, but on weekends she performs in burlesque shows.She said she's learned that beauty can be turned on or off...

This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Fancy Feast, author of "Naked: On Sex, work and other burlesques.".

I realized that lots of people were seeking toys that would mean they didn't have to communicate with their partners..

Sure, a vibrator can help you enhance your sex life, but it's not going to help you have a deeper conversation about the type of touch or role-play you want..

That's a conversation I'm adding to with my book: expanding our limited archive of stories of fat people living life, having relationships, and doing something more profound than moving through the world with confidence..